Merriam-Webster defines loneliness as being without company; cut off from others; sad or producing a feeling of bleakness. While loneliness can be attributed to being without company, some people experience loneliness in the presence of others. Many people suffer from loneliness because of some form of rejection like abandonment, shame, closed doors and other disappointments.
“Nobody cares about me.”
“Nobody understands me.”
“Nobody is ever on my side.”
“This is so hard.”
“This isn’t supposed to be my life.”
These are examples of statements I’ve heard people say who experience loneliness; who feel like people have given up on them and don’t care. Many times, these are people who want attention but often go about it the wrong way.
In order to move forward from loneliness, you have to understand that you must care about yourself first. You have to believe in yourself because when you do, you embrace and grow from your own value and the value you bring to others.
It all boils down to this one thing: to overcome loneliness you must first love yourself. Loving yourself is necessary for self-discovery and personal growth. It allows you to bring positive vibes to the table.
Loving yourself requires action. Consider these actions to combat loneliness:
- Accept responsibility. We can be quick to blame others and slow to accept responsibility for our decisions and actions. Sometimes we hold on to negative energy when situations don’t go our way. Moving forward from loneliness also means owning up to the roles we play in these situations. In lieu of finding fault in others, check yourself first.
- Forgive yourself and others. We all make mistakes and errors in judgment. However, moving forward requires that we free ourselves emotionally from the negative and focus on the positive. When we make it a practice to forgive ourselves, we make it easier to forgive others.
- Invest in yourself. Investing in yourself brings positive energy, and people are attracted to positive energy. Invest in yourself so that others can believe in you and will want to invest in you. Don’t give up on your dreams or on making productive decisions. Take time to celebrate yourself; those unique qualities and accomplishments that make you a badass. Become the best version of yourself without anyone’s permission.
Sometimes loving yourself means having the courage to be alone, at least temporarily. This is so counterintuitive, I know, because it’s natural to want to be around others or see yourself according to other people’s perceptions. But being alone unplugs you from the noise and opinions of others, provides you the opportunity to process your feelings and become more comfortable with yourself. When you practice loving yourself, it matters less what others think of you. Depend on this love to help you overcome your loneliness.
What do you think? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts and experiences on overcoming loneliness. Let’s help and encourage one another in our #OYO community. For additional resources on loneliness and other ailments associated with mental health, please visit the National Alliance on Mental Illness.